When it comes to having an ex, we believe almost everyone that has ever been in a relationship has an ex-partner. Some people wish the relationship they had with their ex never came to an end, and there are equally people who will never want their worst enemy to be in a relationship with their ex. It all boils down to whether or not you enjoyed the relationship with your ex.

A particular case comes to mind here. Barbara and Sean were what you would call a compatible couple. They went on dates together and love being in each other’s company. But four years ago their relationship came to an abrupt end. The reason for the break -up of the relationship is still best known to them.

However, recently, Sean has been having thoughts of communicating with Barbara because Sean is yet to remove thoughts of her from his mind entirely. Whether this is a good idea or not is up to Sean to make the final choice.

Here are reasons why we think it is not a good idea for Sean to communicate with Barbara.

  • It can bring back unpleasant memories: Communicating with an ex can bringing back painful memories you don’ want to remember again. If you were not treated well in the relationship by your ex-partner, communicating with the ex will only bring back the painful memories of the unpleasant experience. Who will want to remember the physical abuse they passed through in the hands of an abusive ex-lover? We are very sure you don’t want to find yourself in such a situation.
  • It can give false hope: Communicating with an ex-partner gives you a false hope your ex-spouse wants you back. It happens most times when it is your partner that broke up with you and left you for someone else. If you still have some feelings for your ex-lover, communicating with the person can create the impression in your mind that the ex-partner still wants you back. In most instances, the other partner has moved up with life with someone else and forgotten about you. So it will be a good idea if you move on with your life.
  • It can cause problems in your present relationship: A major relationship killer is when one of the partners still communicates with an ex-lover. It can give your partner the impression that you have feelings for your ex-spouse. It will be the beginning of problems in the relationship.
  • It can affect you emotionally: keeping an open communication channel between you and your ex can affect you emotionally. Maintaining contact with your ex-partner is not healthy for you. You will get to know your ex-spouse new lover and get jealous. The fact that the two of them are happy together will affect you emotionally. And the fact that you still wish you were the one happy with your ex-lover will make things worse for you

Bottom Line:

Most of us have an ex-partner in our life. A lot of reasons could have caused the break-up of your relationship. It could have been caused by your ex-lover or by you. But sometimes the desire to revive the relationship may still be in you. And it can create the desire to want to communicate with your ex-lover again.

However, we feel it is not a wise idea, for you to keep talking with your ex-mate after you have broken up your relationship. It is, therefore, in your best interest to close all channels of communication between you and your ex-partner so that you can move ahead smoothly with your life. In any case, we wish you the best as you make the best decision for yourself.

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