When most people hear the phrase “sexual abuse,” their hearts beat faster because of what it connotes. Sexual abuse occurs when someone in a position of power or authority takes advantage of the trust reposed in him/her to compel others to engage in sexual activity. Most times, it takes place for an extended period. Sexual abuse happens to both genders in the society. However, it happens more to females than males. If you talk to people that have been sexually abused, the emotions in their eyes would tell you more about their pains than their words ever will. Sexual assault has physical, psychological, and health implications. All in all, an individual might never remain the same because of the abuse.
Sexual assault has become prevalent in our society. If you tune into a channel on TV or you read news online, hardly a day would go by that you would not hear of sexual abuse. The sexual activity takes place at parties, in clubs, on the streets, and even in homes between married couples. Sexual violence occurs when the abuser is violent towards you. Actions that categorizes sexual abuse include strangling, hitting, kicking, or assaulting the victim. If you or someone you know is being abused and such action has resulted in sexual violence, there are things you should do to prevent it from happening again. Here are some tips on what to do when sexual abuse leads to sexual violence:
Report to the Police: We are sure you’ve heard this before but let us just say it once more. Nobody has the right to abuse you in any way or manner whatsoever. Nobody has the right to be violent towards you. If an act of sexual assault occurs or has occurred to you, the first thing you should do is go to the nearest police station and make a report. Police officers are your friend. They exist in the society to preserve order and to ensure all citizens are safe. If someone has been or is being sexually violent towards, you are not safe. Your life is in danger. Make sure you keep everything that might have the abuser’s DNA. Don’t touch the scene of the crime at all. If a struggle occurred, there would be scattered furniture and equipment. Don’t re-arrange anything before going to the police. Although it might be hard as well, try not to take a shower before making your report. Leave your body the way it is. Chances are the police will want to have a certified medical report after the examination. Carrying out these actions will help them in nailing your attacker.
Seek Medical Help: As already discussed, sexual abuse has a lot of effects. Amidst this are health implications. Examples of some health consequences are sexually transmitted disease, unwanted pregnancy, gonorrhea, syphilis, genital bruises, and urinary tract infection. Once the sexual violence takes place, you need to go to the nearest emergency room for treatment. Some medications which can prevent some of the health implications can be given to you. For instance, there is a contraceptive pill that is used immediately after sexual intercourse to prevent pregnancy. This medicine might be given to you to prevent unwanted pregnancy. If you think you were drugged before the sexual violence, tell the medical examiner to test you for date rape drugs. Your blood will probably still have some traces. If you procrastinate going to the hospital, it might be to your disadvantage. The way our bodies function differs. Traces of a person on us can disappear within an hour or two. So, it is better to do the needful at the appropriate time.
Reach out to Your Family and Friends: We all depend on our family for survival. Family members give us unconditional love. When sexual abuse leads to sexual violence, one of the things you can do is to reach out to your loved ones. They are not the victim, so their emotions and reasoning will not be affected. Where you lack strength, they will be willing to lend you some of theirs.
Find a Counselor: A lot of people think seeing a counselor means you have mental problems. That is a misconception. Counselors are trained to understand human beings and how our system function. Their aim is to help us solve the raging emotions within us which make us lash out. Sexual abuse causes a lot of emotions. It makes the victim withdraw from people and isolate himself or herself. However, seeing a counselor might help bring the emotions most victim try to bury out in the open. A lot of people that experience sexual violence seem to believe that it is their fault. It is not your fault. It was never your fault. So, quit the blame game
Find a Local Support Group: We human beings take comfort in knowing we are not alone. A thought pattern that occurs in people that experience sexual violence is that they believe they are all alone. You are not alone. There are thousands of people out there that have experienced what has happened to you. Many people are experiencing it right now. Being part of a support group might help you get over sexual abuse and sexual violence. You can live without feeling like a victim forever.
Divorce or Separation: If you are married, and your spouse is sexually violent towards you, you need to weigh your options. The person that promised to honor, cherish and love you has become your worst nightmare. One of the things you can do is to file for divorce. Alternatively, you can separate if you believe your spouse might change. Once again married people, do not be fooled. If the person you are married to makes you engage in sexual activity without your consent, it is sexual abuse.
You don’t have to feel hopeless if you are going through sexual violence. Forget what your attacker told you. You are not worthless. Someone will believe your story if only you speak out. The truth is that it is difficult to implement all the advice highlighted above. But if you act now, you are not only helping yourself; you are also assisting the society to get rid of sexual abusers. So, act now and do the right thing.
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